I locked his first chastity device onto my slave Tia last Sunday morning. Perhaps surprisingly, this was also my first time using a chastity device.
Unsurprisingly there were lots of details that weren’t mentioned in any of the ‘advice for newbies’ resources I studied beforehand.
I have learned, for instance, that once locked on the device clanks when he walks. Which could provide for some interesting humiliation opportunities in the future. (And another helpful soul has already recommended rubber bands for when the clanking is unwanted.)
I’ve also learned that, as with SO many things, it wasn’t possible to do it all at once. It took three days of trying at various times and in the end we just barely got it on with the assistance of ice water, gobs of lube, AND him having had an orgasm directly beforehand. Apparently the caging is such a turn-on for my sissy slut that his normally petite organ simply won’t stop swelling up and interfering with the process. And after all that awkward fumbling he only had it on for about half an hour before he got a nasty pinch on his scrotum from a bit of skin getting stuck between two pieces of the cage. :p
I expect we’ll get better at getting the dang thing on with practice. But I also expect it’ll continue to be tricky. Tia’s scrotum is exceptionally small, his balls held very close to his body, and I think the standard cock-cage design may always be an issue. Unless, of course, we undertake a program of ball-stretching; an activity I never had an interest in before this morning, and which is now right at the top of my to-do list. *wickedgrin*
Monday, June 27. 2011
Tia's first time in chastity
Saturday, June 18. 2011
Humiliation - why's & wherefores
Recently--before a overzealous Fetlife forum nazi closed it down an actual interesting conversation was starting about why humiliation is such a turn on for some submissives.
I'm only speaking for myself here--other submissives may feel the same way, or they may be wired completely different. I'm not into pain--given the choice between getting a severe flogging and curling up on a comfy couch and eating BBQ, BBQ and comfy couch win 10 times out of 10.
I don't seek pain out. It hurts.
Its the body's way of saying "STOP DOING THAT!".
It has a tendency to turn me personally into Jerry Lewis. "LA-DY! Enough with the ouchy hitty thing!"
But it IS part of the job description, I feel, of being a submissive or a slave. If the Dominant chooses to administer pain for punishment, or for the Dominant's own enjoyment all is well and good. I can't seem to be able to talk Mistress into a 'BBQ and comfy couch' punishment for some odd reason. ;D
Humiliation....well, oddly enough...I don't seek it out either...its NOT the act that Mistress is doing that is putting me into subspace. For example, not too long ago she administered an enema to me. In the hallway. In our house with thin walls with my roommate in the next room over who could probably hear everything.
And Mistress being Mistress, she puts it ON CAMERA.
Its NOT the act itself that trips my triggers. I didn't want it, I don't even have an enema fetish at all. What put me into subspace and wrapped me all the tighter around Mistress's little finger was knowing deep down in my heart that I had no choice in the matter at all. That no matter how embarrassed I was or unwilling, it was going to happen anyway. That delicious feeling of being so helpless, so deep in Her power that there was no choice but to obey....oh my...that is what makes me squirm in ecstasy, that giving of myself to her.
It reinforces her ownership of me...and its so beautiful...
softsmile
Anyway...that's what I as a submissive get out of it, for those looking for perspective..
I'm only speaking for myself here--other submissives may feel the same way, or they may be wired completely different. I'm not into pain--given the choice between getting a severe flogging and curling up on a comfy couch and eating BBQ, BBQ and comfy couch win 10 times out of 10.
I don't seek pain out. It hurts.
Its the body's way of saying "STOP DOING THAT!".It has a tendency to turn me personally into Jerry Lewis. "LA-DY! Enough with the ouchy hitty thing!"
But it IS part of the job description, I feel, of being a submissive or a slave. If the Dominant chooses to administer pain for punishment, or for the Dominant's own enjoyment all is well and good. I can't seem to be able to talk Mistress into a 'BBQ and comfy couch' punishment for some odd reason. ;D
Humiliation....well, oddly enough...I don't seek it out either...its NOT the act that Mistress is doing that is putting me into subspace. For example, not too long ago she administered an enema to me. In the hallway. In our house with thin walls with my roommate in the next room over who could probably hear everything.
And Mistress being Mistress, she puts it ON CAMERA.
Its NOT the act itself that trips my triggers. I didn't want it, I don't even have an enema fetish at all. What put me into subspace and wrapped me all the tighter around Mistress's little finger was knowing deep down in my heart that I had no choice in the matter at all. That no matter how embarrassed I was or unwilling, it was going to happen anyway. That delicious feeling of being so helpless, so deep in Her power that there was no choice but to obey....oh my...that is what makes me squirm in ecstasy, that giving of myself to her.
It reinforces her ownership of me...and its so beautiful...
softsmile
Anyway...that's what I as a submissive get out of it, for those looking for perspective..
Monday, June 13. 2011
My pretty kitty
So when I asked Santa to bring me a matched set of kittyboys for xmas on my tumblr blog recently it wasn't exactly a new desire. In fact, I already had these pictures of Tia sitting in my cellphone...
Where, alas, they were found by girlspawn (aka my daughter) and the following conversation ensued*:
GS: EWWW! Mommy, why do you have naked pictures of Tia on your phone?
Me: {snatches phone away from her} You were ONLY supposed to be playing angry birds!
~pause~
Me: And besides, they aren't naked pictures. He's wearing underwear, and dressed like a kitty cat.
~pause~
Me: I talked him into dressing up like a kitty cat. I told him I thought it would be cute. And then I talked him into letting me take pictures of him, so he could see how cute he looked.
GS: Oh. Okay.
Lesson learned: Get the damned naughty pics off the phone before allowing girlspawn to play angry birds! :p
* Conversation is recounted as I remember it. Which may be badly; I was rather flustered at the time.
p.s. Also, I have promised to procure a fur bikini to go with Tia's cute kitty ears and tail!
Where, alas, they were found by girlspawn (aka my daughter) and the following conversation ensued*:
GS: EWWW! Mommy, why do you have naked pictures of Tia on your phone?
Me: {snatches phone away from her} You were ONLY supposed to be playing angry birds!
~pause~
Me: And besides, they aren't naked pictures. He's wearing underwear, and dressed like a kitty cat.
~pause~
Me: I talked him into dressing up like a kitty cat. I told him I thought it would be cute. And then I talked him into letting me take pictures of him, so he could see how cute he looked.
GS: Oh. Okay.
Lesson learned: Get the damned naughty pics off the phone before allowing girlspawn to play angry birds! :p
* Conversation is recounted as I remember it. Which may be badly; I was rather flustered at the time.
p.s. Also, I have promised to procure a fur bikini to go with Tia's cute kitty ears and tail!
Venus in Furs
I just finished reading Venus in Furs
by Leopold von Sacher-Masoch. (You know, the fellow for whom masochism is named?) And I was surprised by how fascinating I found it. It's a bit slow to start, and of course there's the flowery archaic language to get used to, but once it got going the story itself grabbed me.
The tale involves a man (Severin) who dreams of becoming the slave of the woman he loves (Wanda), and what happens when they agree to make his dream a reality. I won't give away the plot, but much of the fascination of reading it was seeing just how many of the themes and ideas that run through modern femdom fantasies were present back then. (This book was first published 140 years ago!) There's bondage, physical punishments, humiliation, domestic servitude, cuckolding and object fetishes. Even the language is familiar; he speaks eloquently of cruel and strict Mistresses dominating adoring slaves.
There's also a very interesting thread of period morality running through it, preaching against sexism as it was understood in those days.
The novella is quite short, and for anyone with an interest in male submission/female domination I think well worth a read.
by Leopold von Sacher-Masoch. (You know, the fellow for whom masochism is named?) And I was surprised by how fascinating I found it. It's a bit slow to start, and of course there's the flowery archaic language to get used to, but once it got going the story itself grabbed me.The tale involves a man (Severin) who dreams of becoming the slave of the woman he loves (Wanda), and what happens when they agree to make his dream a reality. I won't give away the plot, but much of the fascination of reading it was seeing just how many of the themes and ideas that run through modern femdom fantasies were present back then. (This book was first published 140 years ago!) There's bondage, physical punishments, humiliation, domestic servitude, cuckolding and object fetishes. Even the language is familiar; he speaks eloquently of cruel and strict Mistresses dominating adoring slaves.
There's also a very interesting thread of period morality running through it, preaching against sexism as it was understood in those days.
The novella is quite short, and for anyone with an interest in male submission/female domination I think well worth a read.
